Recently I have been thinking about how I use my time. I am HORRIBLE about wasting time. Like just now, when I was supposed to be writing this blog post, I might have wasted an inordinate amount of time on Facebook and reading blogs. When I was working in an office it wasn’t the internet that kept me distracted, but it was conversations with my co-workers. If there was a conversation, I wanted to be in on it! (Can you tell I am an extrovert?) I am not a task oriented person if other people are around that I can interact with. Consequently, I ended up taking longer on a project than I needed to or causing myself undue stress trying to meet a deadline. Now, since I work from home, I end up working at undesirable hours because I might have squandered away the desirable hours wasting time. I know I am not the only person who struggles with this.

Obviously I need to be more purposeful with my time. I know this is a cliché, but it works and it is true. I need to:

Work hard: This is simple, but it is really difficult for me to do sometimes (especially when I am supposed to be doing

Git-R-Done

it). Work hard when you are supposed to be working hard so that you can stop when it is time to stop and not feel guilty about it. For myself, that means getting away by myself so that there is no one else to interact with and buckling down. That may not be possible for others, so you could use headphones to listen to music or white noise to drown out the distractions in the background so that you can concentrate on the task at hand. As my father in law likes to say (and incidentally Mater too): Git R done!

Play hard: Since you have finished you work, you can now play hard. Whether this means spending time with your significant other, your kids, or just watching TV, you can do it with a clean conscience. This is what this time has been allotted for, so enjoy it!

Sleep hard: You have to have enough rest to be able to accomplish the above tasks. Do whatever you have to do, but getting enough sleep is important.

Now if only I didn’t need the internet to do my work so that way Facebook wasn’t always calling out to me…..

I usually address the needs of the distracted worker in a cubicle.  I digress at times, but largely, I write for the rights of the interrupted  soul just trying to get his or her work done.

Today, however, I am writing to you, O Distractor.  Whether you are making inappropriate jokes, clicking your finger nails, tapping your heels, emitting bodily odors and sounds, overly rejoicing over a sale (it had to happen some time, right?), arguing too loudly with your other half via an office-traveling phone call, eating odiferous ethnic foods or just plain old tuna, this is for you.

And I’m not sorry.  You deserve it.  Maybe now you’ll work instead of irritating the rest of us.  Until that day, I will block you.

Quiet Time at Work?

Maybe there really was something to the quiet game.

I’ve heard of quiet times for children and of quiet times for spiritual meditation, but I’d never heard of quiet time for work.  According to a recent BNET article, IBM , Intel , U.S. Cellular and Deloitte &  Touche have taken charge of their employees’ time like this:

Spring is coming!

Daffodils almost make the winter worth it. Almost.

March 1st.  Hallelujah!- the worst 2 months of the year are over.  Seriously does anyone even like, much less love, January or February?  If you raised your cyberhand, I’d wager it’s because your birthday is in one of those awful months, and unless you are bringing world peace, then the event of your birth doesn’t count.  Anyway, back to March.   Even though the official advent of spring is not until the 22nd, the promise of hillside daffodils makes up for that 3-week wait.

For my family, it means we are T-2 weeks from our vacation to Paris!  We are trying to travel outside of the UK once a term while we are here.  Interestingly, a Brit recently told me how much cheaper it is to travel outside of the UK than within it.  So, we decided to take advantage of our location, which means toting along the kids.  Traveling with kids is a nightmare at worst and an experiment at best, but after 3 and a half years of doing it across the States and now across the pond, we feel like we have mastered it.    In fact, we know exactly how many bags to take, how many gifts to bring friends and family, how much space to leave for trinkets- and while we do have a scale, I can pick up the bag and tell you if it’s under 50 pounds.

Paris on Ryanair

We can afford these luxurious vacations because of Ryanair (think Southwest Airlines meets Greyhound).  Ryanair views itself as a bus in the sky, so they offer super-cheap tickets, knowing they’ll get you on all the extras (such as checking in on-sight, checking in baggage, infant seats, snacks, etc).  Thus, we have streamlined our packing strategy and, as a result, we (read that all 4 of us) are flying to Paris for under 20 pounds!  You see, my husband is amazing at jumping through the hoops and paying the bare minimum to get from point A (Scotland) to point B (Paris).  We flew to Germany for 20 pounds last fall and we wore a couple layers and purchased carry-ons from Flylite that are an exact fit for Ryanair requirements.  We figured that the minor expense of the bags is worth the number of trips we can not pay for checking in baggage (plus the bags are very lightweight and we got a free rucksack with our order that we were able to fold inside the bag and then use as a backpack for all our kids’ stuff once we were in Germany.).   We were also allowed one small, collapsible stroller/buggy, so we took a sturdy umbrella stroller that could recline a wee bit for our son to snooze. The trip was a huge success, so we booked Paris for March.

What we pack

Our trip is for 5 days.  We booked an apartment, so we will have a washer.  So, I figure a couple changes of clothes are fine.  These are carry-ons, so all toiletries must be small and under 4 ounces since they’ll got through security.  I pack a few snacks for the kids for the plane (both flights), as well as their sleepy things/lovies (pacis, blankies, etc.) .  Fortunately, we had the insight to not let them get attached to huge items, so their necessary items are quite compact.  Our little guy is still in a crib, but even a pack n play is not an option for the plane.  A friend recommended this Peapod for compact, lightweight traveling.  It is 3 pounds and fits in a carry-on with plenty of extra space for other essentials.  Finally, and I am totally serious, we pack portable white noise generators.  This is our vacation, so we are leaving our computers at home (yikes!!), so my usual free generator can’t come with us.  As it is, we invested in a few portable sound machines for our flat, so we’re taking 2 (one for our room and one for the kids’ room).  They’re small and they protect our sleep- I never leave home without them.  (After staying a night in Mexico City after a football victory and therefore not getting a single moment of quiet the entire night, I purposed to never be unprepared again.  I used to use ear plugs- however, my ears are pretty sensitive and I would wake up because they were sore.  So, while  very small, they still didn’t help that much.  Thus, I resorted to white noise generators and fell in love.)

We are thinking Spain (I studied there a bit in college) or Italy for the next trip.  Both paella and pasta sound marvelous to me.  As Michael Scott would say, it’s a win-win-win.

Cold & Flu Season

I always dread this time of year. Christmas is over, and it feels like forever ago. It seems like it should be spring by now, but alas it isn’t.  A lot of us even still have snow on the ground- it’s pretty unless you can’t get to work or to the store.  To top it off, this is always the worst time of year for illness for my family, which is not surprising because February is the peak of cold and flu season.  In fact, we are still recovering from having the flu last week.

Tips to prevent illness

In light of all the illness going around right now, I thought I’d post some reminders about how to prevent  it so that way you can use your sick days for ‘mental health days’ instead of actual sick days. There aren’t earth shattering revelations—just some helpful reminders.

1. Wash your hands! My entire family washes their hands as soon as we get home from going anywhere. If you don’t have soap and water handy, then hand sanitizer is also very effective. This is your first defense against getting sick.
2. Wipe down your work area periodically. According to a study done at the University of Arizona, work stations can contain nearly 400 times as many microbes than bathrooms. (Go ahead and go grab that antibacterial wipe and wipe everything down. We’ll wait for you until you get back.)
3. Avoid touching your face. This one is obvious. If the germs are on your hands, you don’t want to give them a chance to get into your body through your eyes, mouth or nose.  Plus, nobody likes watching you pick at your face.)
4. Get enough sleep. I don’t know about you, but when I am tired, not only do I get sick more often, but it is a lot harder to cope with being sick. (Can anyone say, “Whiny?”)    Try to get better sleep- and because I think you’ll like it, a free white noise generator to help you tune out your annoying neighbors or snoring bedmate.
5. Take your vitamins. A lot of people are running low in the Vitamin D department this time of year. (Fewer hours of sunlight + lots of layers of clothing=vitamin D deficiency.)  Vitamin D deficiencies have been linked to higher rates of cold and flu, so now is the time to supplement since you most likely are not getting enough.
6. Think Spring! Okay, I don’t actually know if this will help you not get sick, but it will help your mindset. Perhaps put up a nice wallpaper on your computer background to remind you that spring will be here soon.

If you want to help your coworkers remember to also keep the germ spreading behaviors to a minimum, the CDC put out a helpful little poster for that very purpose.

(Please note. We aren’t doctors. Just people with common sense. Always ask your doctor before starting a vitamin supplement.)

Reposted from Inc.com

Inc.com’s take on working from home

If you’ve read this blog for long, you must have figured out that I work from home.  I recently found a funny post that I can relate to in many ways.  This is her lead-in to 8 Work-from-Home Tips:

Inc. Magazine lives in New York City. I live in the Boston suburbs. So for three years I’ve been working out of my home office with nothing to look at but the Ozark-esque compound across the road and nothing to listen to but squirrels striking the back porch when they miss the bird feeders. It gets lonely at times. My house lacks both a water cooler and peers to engage in conversation around one. I miss the random hallway conversations that unexpectedly ignite ideas or forge alliances. When I know my colleagues are staying late to close an issue, I work late too, out of solidarity. The managing editor offers to order in dinner and sends out a link to the menu. I mentally place my order.

Nothing to Listen to….?

I was interested in her description of lack of water cooler gossip and nothing to listen to as complaints.  She goes on to supply 8 tips that further intrigued me.  Instead of feeling relieved from the office distractions, this work-from-homer felt alone and isolated- in a too quiet place.  It’s hard to remember my home being too quiet, but I think it was before July 12, 2006 (the birth of our daughter).  And when I sit down to think about it, there are times that are too quiet- so quiet I can hardly think.  I start to look around at the specks on my carpet and the dust on my mantle instead of the work on my computer.  I’ve tried music, but it ends up distracting me at an even higher level.  Sometimes I can work with the TV on, but if it’s LOST, let’s be honest, I’m all in.  Too bad I don’t make money for the number of hours I have my computer open, right?

Besides setting aside time that is dedicated to work (not dishes, cleaning, diapers, or blog-reading), I also have to further protect my focus.  For me, it’s white noise (give this free white noise generator a shot if you’ve never tried one).  I love the consistency and gentle hum it brings as I stay glued to the page I’m working on instead of fluttering all over the place.  I love efficient work, so for more ideas for better focus while working from home, check out these tips- from me to you.  You’re welcome. 

Poor work. It'salways at the bottom of the totem pole.

Have you ever charted where your time goes?  I never really thought about it until I saw this hierarchy of distractions.  It’s a little too true.  My first thought was: It’s a good thing I live in Scotland and don’t have an iPhone. Would you believe they just came out with them here?  (And I’ve thought of the UK as so hip and fashion-forward.)  I also quickly deleted online dating (happily married and plan to stay that way) and eBay (no patience for it).  None of those deletions, however, changed the fact that I am distracted by all the rest ALL DAY.

These thoughts brought me to my original question- have you ever really put thought into what you do with your time? While I’m writing this, I have 8 tabs open, begging me to check them for updates.  That is nothing compared to my husband’s computer though.  Maybe it’s his electrical engineering background, but I have never seen the internet work so hard as on his computer.  Not unlike the ultimate trump at the top of the pyramid, we have to physically shut our lap tops if we’re going to have a real conversation or actually interact with our children.

Interestingly, it’s much harder to implement such rules during the work day.  Most of us work with computers.  In fact, emails, messages, blogs, and websites are critical parts of our work.  Therefore, it is difficult to set limits on them.  However, the average worker fritters away more than 2 hours everyday on distractions just like these, as well as conversational distractions and run-of-the-mill interruptions.  Two hours!  I don’t get paid by the hour, so it’s easy to dismiss that figure.  Regardless, I would get more projects done, and therefore get paid for more projects at the end of the day if I could reclaim those lost hours.  That’s 10 hours a week. Who couldn’t use an extra 10 hours?

If you’re with me in wanting more to show for your day, check out this possible solution: white noise generators.  I use white noise for work and for better sleep.  I like the nature sounds for work- keeps me alert and focused on my work instead of outside noise, and I prefer a more consistent hum for sleep (I’m not sure who wants to sleep with chirping birds…?)  The end result for me is that I am able to tune out annoyances vying for my attention and focus on what I need to at that moment, be it work or relaxation.  I hope it works for you, too.

SAD is not an acronym invented by psychologists.

30 Rock

Liz: Work is awful. Everyone’s snippy and tense.
Jack: Well the lack of sun makes people depressed. It’s called “seasonal affective disorder.”
Liz: Oh, is that where the word “sad” comes from?
Jack: What? You think “sad” is an acronym invented by psychologists?
Liz: I’ve been stuck inside playing online Boggle. It’s messing with my head! STAR. RATS. ARTS. TARS.

(reblogged fromPoison Ivy)

Many of us do actually suffer from SAD (seasonal affective disorder)- even those of us not in Scotland.  And, as usual Jack gets it right- it’s typically the lack of sunlight that essentially makes people feel depressed.  It’s just a happy (or sad) coincidence that the acronym is SAD.  As many as 1 in 20 people struggle with this form of temporary depression, and usually women more so.  Just because it’s temporary doesn’t mean it’s not a big deal, though.  Depression sucks no matter how long it lasts.  So, unless you can fly to Miami as Liz tried to (and failed, ending up in not so sunny Boston), do what you can: get as much sun as possible or try light therapy.  Sometimes we all need a little more sun.

While beautifully quaint, this Scottish building boasts of all the creaks and groans of any antiquity.

Well, I thought I’d report back on the retreat/ “weekend away.”  I knew it would be all right when there were no name tags.  In fact, the weekend away was more than good- it really was great.  We live in Scotland, so any kind of road trip is a sight to behold and the hour and a half trip south of Aberdeen (our city) to Arbroath was a lovely one.  While I remembered every snack available to man and the portable DVD player, I did of course forget the actual DVDs, a mistake my children did not appreciate at all.

Regardless, we made it to the Windmill Christian Centre and immediately enjoyed the view of the coast and the peaceful surroundings I highly recommend this facility by the way).  It is one large building with 3 or 4 stories and perfected suited for such an event.  The retreat director was thoughtful enough to put our family of 4 further away from the activity hub, but we still had 45 Uni students running up and down the stairs right outside our door, as well as across the hall to the bathroom at all hours of the night.  As I mentioned I would, I brought 2 sound machines in case we split the kids somehow.  Our goal was to cover the college kid noises, as well as the soft little coughs and sighs so typical of small children (yet still distracting to adults trying to sleep).  As it turned out, there was an en-suite bathroom (unusual for Scotland), so we put our son in a pack n play in there as he is the youngest (21 months) and the rest of us stayed in the main room.  We set up both white noise generators at opposite ends of the room, and I can testify that they worked!  Even when our daughter woke up in a coughing fit at 4am, that natural white noise (water fall) washed over my son as if he were in paradise- and indeed he was- blissfully unaware of anything other than sweet rest.  We all slept in and had a great time!

I will say how funny it was to explain to a British man what white noise is.  He was sure it was just another “American thing,” but his kid did not sleep until 8, did he?    Similarly, we had another family use our flat while we were away.  They have just arrived from the States and are still jet-lagging with their 2 small children.  The father’s comment was, “Man that noise thing really works!  My son was finally able to get some much-needed rest.”  Need I say more? (except maybe that the retreat god has been assuaged.  What a relief.”

Nothing like answering the same littany of boring questions 20 times.

I’ve never been that into retreats.  I’ll go, but I never look forward to it because it never ends up being very relaxing.  Whether you’re a college student or a career-driven adult, the weekend is something sacred, a time when you should be watching sports and sleeping in.   Instead, you sacrifice a weekend to go to a retreat because it’s going to be “so fun.”  Mm-hmm.  All the fun begins as you stick a name tag on and invite all eyes to stare at your chest (yes, I’m of the female variety).  Then, you get sub-par food at predetermined times, including a senior citizen’s early bird special at 5pm, leaving you starving at 8.  Then, you share quarters with either the friends who managed to talk you into this exciting event, or even better, with strangers you feel the compulsion to chat with to get to know (because that’s what nice people do).  At the end of the weekend, you realize you spent $100 to sleep uncomfortably and eat too many carbs.

I didn’t know it got worse.  Evidently, meeting your husband at a college retreat means that you owe the retreat god big time because somehow, without knowing how, you find yourself looking at a retreat with said husband…and your 2 kids- both under the age 0f 4.  This should go without saying, but a retreat with children isn’t really a retreat at all.  I mean, grandparents take my kids for the weekend or give us an adjoining suite, and I’m all about it.  Truly.  I would actually openly embrace a retreat as what it’s meant to be- time away from what you normally do.  However, packing up 4 of us and loading our car with sleeping bags, duvet covers (what the what?) towels, pack n plays, and car seats is only the beginning.  We are paying to leave the comfort of our 3-bedroom flat and the ease of our own routine to share a room at a retreat- and calling it “a weekend away” in a charming Scottish brogue does not atone for the fact that we are sharing a room.  All 4 of us.  If you read anything I write, you know I do not sleep with my children.  Not even in the hospital- I feed them, I love them, I grin at their sweetness, then I send them right back to the nursery because night time is for sleeping….not for listening to every coo, cry out, and bad dream.  We have 4 white noise generators for a reason- we believe in rest to the point that we invest heavily in the white noise. Praise the Lord our sound machines are portable.  I might set up all 4 in the room just for good measure.  What do you think?

Anyway, pray for us and that the retreat god will be appeased…I cannot endure this again.