Tips for getting baby to sleep

The things parents do for sleep…

Your baby (and his sleep) are precious things.

As I am babysitting my friend’s 10-month-old, and he won’t stop crying (surely it’s not me…right?), I am fondly (and not so fondly) remembering those days with my own 2 children.  It’s crazy the lengths we sleep-deprived parents will go to to get our kids to sleep.  Whether it’s a specific pacifier, a soft blanket with just the right texture, or even a special stuffed duck-billed platypus, our hearts (and therefore our wallets) know no bounds.  For you parents just starting out on this crazy journey, I’d love to pass on what I learned about babies and their sleep.

Tips for getting baby to sleep

  • It’s great to read books on sleep, but no one has your child.  It’s your job as the parent to study your child and know their sleepy signs, such as yawning, rubbing eyes, pulling ears/hair, etc.
  • Put your baby down for a nap or for the night before he or she starts crying/fussing.  This is tricky, but if you can catch your child as they’re staring off into space and not yet irritable enough to fuss, you’ll have a much better put-down.
  • If you are comfortable/successful in nursing/feeding/rocking your baby to sleep, then by all means do it.  On the other hand, if that doesn’t work for you for whatever reason, don’t worry about a few minutes of crying.
  • Reconcile yourself to the fact that your kid may not be a marathon napper.  I worked for longer naps for my daughter for over a year and finally took what I got.  We were both much happier.  My son, on the other hand, snoozes for hours.  Again- each child is different
  • We love white noise- specifically, portable sound machines that can travel with us.  It may be that our kids don’t really need the extra sound to block potentially intrusive noises, but the peace of mind white noise brings is worth it.  I am not the mom who is afraid of the phone ringing or the door bell chiming.  I am confident my kids’ sleep will not be disturbed.

Regardless of what anyone says, you do know best.  You may not be able to give your child a check-up, but you do know how they work.  I think the hardest thing is surviving the first few months and learning how each child works.  Once you do notice the patterns, though, you can roughly predict what they need and when- you can even schedule in a nap for yourself!

Not Getting Enough Sleep Effects Many Areas of Life

According to a recent survey, “seven out of 10 Americans are getting less than seven hours of sleep on weeknights accumulating a deficit of more than one hour per night based on experts’ recommendations that a full night’s sleep is about eight hours.” This probably comes as no surprise to you. However, the far reaching effects of too little sleep were surprising.

Could lack of sleep be effecting your productivity?

The survey results also showed that

One in five Americans has missed work because of feeling tired. And many of those that do drag themselves in to work after a bad night’s sleep are not very productive – a sleepless night has caused a lack of concentration during an important meeting or conversation for almost half of Americans (47 percent).

The consequences of not being able to concentrate during an important meeting could be potentially devastating. You don’t want to come across as disengaged or uninterested.

Effects on Your Skin

Here are some more surprising results.

  • After a bad night’s sleep, most Americans’ (85 percent) skin suffers – the most common results are dark circles under the eyes (59 percent) and dull (31 percent) or splotchy skin (16 percent).

“Sleep allows your skin time to repair itself from the daily damage done by stress and the environment,” says Dr. Jeanine Downie, certified dermatologist. “When skin does not have adequate time to repair itself, the long term effects can be similar to those of sun exposure.”

I’ve been using sunscreen every day for years now trying to save myself skin cancer (and, I’ll be honest, I’d like to continue to look young and unwrinkled as long as I can.) Perhaps I should start focusing more attention on getting to bed on time.

Are you a Danger on the Road?

Finally, this startling statistic should convince you of your need for a peaceful nights sleep if nothing else does.

One in five Americans has ever fallen asleep while driving and almost half of Americans (48 percent) “drove while drowsy” in the last month.

That doesn’t only affect you. It effects all the drivers around you.

Tips to Get Enough Sleep

Now that you are convinced that sleep is important and that you aren’t getting enough, what can you do to change this? How can you help yourself to get enough sleep?

The Mayo Clinic offers these 10 tips.

10 Tips for Better Sleep

  • Go to bed and get up at about the same time every day, even on the weekends. This helps your body’s natural sleep and awake patterns to stay on track.
  • Don’t eat or drink large amounts before bedtime. If you do need a snack, eat something light.
  • Avoid nicotine, caffeine, and alcohol in the evening. All three can effect the quality of your sleep.
  • Exercise regularly. Its hard to be sleepy if you never do anything.
  • Make your bedroom cool, dark, quiet, and comfortable. Make sure the temperature is comfortable and the room is dark. If you live in Scotland like I do, black out blinds are a must for the summer.  A white noise generator may be of use to you so you don’t hear any ambient noise that will wake you up. (I live on a busy street. I am awakened nightly if I don’t use white noise.)
  • Sleep primarily at night. If you take long naps during the day, then you won’t be tired at night when it is time for bed.
  • Choose a comfortable mattress and pillow. Can’t sleep if you aren’t comfortable. Also, memory foam is wonderful.
  • Start a relaxing bedtime routine. Works with kids and it works with adults. Perhaps you could take a bath or read for a bit before falling asleep.
  • Go to bed when you’re tired and turn out the lights. Stressing about not sleeping doesn’t help a person fall asleep.
  • Use sleeping pills only as a last resort. You don’t want to train your body to need sleeping pills to be able to fall asleep.

White Noise Hack

Both of my children are used to white noise when they sleep. It is part of their bedtime routine and they really like having it. Last night my husband went camping with my daughter for the first time. We do have portable white noise machines, but without electricity, they obviously weren’t of any use. So, hubby devised a white noise stand in. He simply tuned his cell phone radio to a station where there was no signal and thus static. Voila! White noise. Granted, not the best white noise, but my daughter isn’t picky. We’ve successfully used an alarm clock radio in a pinch too. (If it is too “shrill” or “tinny” sounding, then you can throw a shirt over the speaker and it will muffle the sound some.) Again, not a long term solution, but it worked for the night.

Ear Plugs vs. White Noise

Factors to Consider

Sometimes it’s difficult to know whether to use ear plugs or white noise (aka sound machine) to block noise.  Since I feel like I am the guru of all things noise-related, I thought I’d throw out some pointers.  You’re welcome.  (By the way, if you’re not sure, check out this article on what white noise really is.)

  • Consider the noise you’re trying to block.  Is it within the room you are in, or is it from an external source?
  • What are you trying to do?  Work?  Relax?  Sleep?  Manage tinnitus?
  • How long do you need coverage?  30 minutes?  A couple hours?  All day or night?
  • Do you want silence or something else to listen to?
  • Are you sharing your space with someone else or are you flying solo?

How to Know Whether To Use Ear Plugs or White Noise

The answers to those questions will largely determine whether to use ear plugs or white noise.

  • The Sonet is a great choice for work or sleep.

    If you are trying to block a noise from within the same room, it kind of depends.  Let’s say you are sharing a bedroom with a small child who coos or moans, or an adult who snores.  Dependent upon your level of noise sensitivity, you could go either route.  I usually use both- a white noise generator to block consistent sounds (snoring) and ear plugs to block less predictable sounds (crunching sheets).  Sharing a room to sleep is the one time I consider ear plugs.

  • If you are trying to block an external noise (barking dog, neighbor’s crying baby, car horns, weather, etc), then white noise is the way to go.  Ear plugs can be uncomfortable and downright painful if you have sensitive ears, and a white noise generator can easily handle outside noises.
  • If you are trying to work, I suggest a The Sonet for its superior ability to cover unwanted distractions.    If you are trying to relax, I like a sound machine with nature sounds, but those without birds.  I like a nice, smooth sound, such as a waterfall or waves lapping.  If you are trying to sleep, you could go with ear plugs or a sound machine (see above points).  If you are managing tinnitus, ear plugs will only add to the discomfort and frustration.  A sound machine with sound therapy is definitely the route to go.
  • I also think the amount of time you desire coverage is important to consider.  If you want a specific period of time, why not go with a white noise generator that has a timer?  That way you can relax or take a nap for a specific amount of time and the lack of noise can serve as an alarm or a reminder to move on.  However, if you are looking for all-night coverage, you can use ear plugs instead.
  • If you desire silence, while ear plugs kind of just dull your ability to hear, they would provide “silence” more than a sound machine by very nature of their construction.  On the other hand, many people prefer a little noise to keep their brains slightly occupied so they can rest or even fall asleep faster without worrying or becoming anxious.
  • The Sound Oasis Travel System

    If you are sharing space with someone, you will want to ask them if they mind a white noise generator.  If they do, ear plugs would be a better option.

Hopefully, the tips have given you some insight as you choose between ear plugs and white noise.  And, if a sound machine isn’t in your budget,  here’s a free white noise generator.  If you are in the market for a sound machine, my personal favorite is the Sound Oasis Travel.  You get all the perks of nature sounds in a small, portable package at an affordable price.

The Hula Chair

Time Magazine recently came out with a list of the 50 Worst Inventions. Included in this list was the Hula Chair (also known as the Hawaii Chair). This is almost beyond words. How on earth are you supposed to get anything done while you are moving around so much? Even if you could, I think other people would be too distracted by your gyrating hips to be able to concentrate on their work. Even white noise couldn’t solve this problem.  Besides, I am pretty sure I would get motion sickness if I ever tried to use this thing.The Hawaii Chair at Work

Cheap & Free Tips for Improved Productivity

Going from 120 days of vacation…to 14

I remember being a sophomore in college and my borhter who was graduating made the horrifying connection that his reward for finishing his degree was going from 4 months of vacation to 2 weeks.  It was staggering indeed…and maybe prompted, or at least confirmed, my desire to be a teacher.  Who doesn’t love summers off?

Unfortunately, if you’re one of the millions of office workers, chances are you don’t have 3 months off in the summer.  Your boss doesn’t care if it’s a gorgeous 80-degree day, your deadlines are still looming over you.  All your pent-up desire to be outside should inspire you to work faster and more productively so you can get out of the office on time and enjoy your nights and weekends to the fullest!

So, how about some tips for being more productive?  And, while we’re at it, let’s make ‘em cheap or free solutions, so you can put your money towards your next vacation.

Cheap {or Free} Ways to be More Productive

  • Which desks motivates you to work?

    Mentally prepare yourself before you arrive at work.  Know where you left off and where you would like to start so you don’t feel overwhelmed.

  • Clean your desk.  Throw away any litter/trash, wipe it down, file papers, and organize your stuff.  A more organized desktop enables you to focus on what’s important rather than be discouraged by the mess.  It’s worth the time it takes to get it tidied, but try to keep it organized so you don;t have to sacrifice another day in a few weeks.
  • Try white noise- you can even use a free generator.  By blocking out your annoying or just distracting co-workers, you can get up to 2 more hours out of your work day.
  • If possible, adjust your chair and/or desk for a better, more productive fit so you can reach what you need without overextending.
  • Pull your mouse in so that’s it’s right next to the keyboard.  This will help you avoid RSI and keep you in top-notch form.
  • Avoid eye strain and unnecessary headaches by raising your monitor to eye level.  Any type of pain will keep you from performing at your best level.
  • Switch tasks- you’ll give your eyes a break and keep your mind sharp by alternating between computer work and desk work.
  • At the end of the day, jot down where you are so that you can jump right back in the next work day.  (see the first tip)
Here’s to you being more productive so that you can leave work behind you as you enjoy your summer!

Benefits of Working from Home

Back in April, we wrote about questions to ask yourself when trying to decide whether working from home would be a good option for you. Recently, I came across an article by Ana de Silva that talks about the benefits of telecommuting, so I thought I’d share some of the highlights of that with you as a follow up to the previous post.

Lower Costs for Employers

Reduced office costs
Fewer people in the office results in lower office bills: less coffee to provide, fewer paper clips to stock, fewer phone calls to pay for, less toilet paper to buy and so on.

Reduced health insurance costs
Employees who have more flexibility in their schedules tend to be happier people because they may arrange their schedule to include running errands, taking care of their children and getting enough rest and exercise.  Happier employees = healthier employees = lower health insurance costs.

Lower Costs for Workers

Less fuel and other car expenses
Working from home will save you money on fuel and put less wear and tear on your car.

Lower child care expenses
Although working from home you’ll still need to dedicate the same amount of time to work, you can still be the person who will drop off and pick up your children after school, take them to the doctor or even watch out after your toddler for half of the day.  But most importantly, the time you spend with your children is priceless, which brings us to the next section.

Personal Reasons To Work from Home

Spending time with your children
Thirty five hours per week at work (40+ for Americans) plus commuting time all adds up to time not spent with your children.  Both you and your children will be happier if you spend more time with them.  But you can always ask your children what they think.

More time for oneself
You may put the time you spend commuting towards your hobby, favorite sport, studying or other experience more enriching than attacks of road rage and smelling the armpits of that guy in the metro who’s never heard of deodorant.

Increased productivity
When employees have more time to be with their families or to do things for themselves, they’re happier people.  Happier people are less stressed out and are less likely to make mistakes.  Happier people are more productive, which leads to more work done and more money saved.

I would also add a couple more points.

Less money spent on professional wardrobe

If you don’t have to go in to work, then its okay to wear your jeans, tshirt, and crocs all day.  You’d just need to purchase a few outfits for when you do need to go into the office.  (That was a test, by the way. There is never a need to wear crocs unless you are gardening.)

Fewer Distractions

If you are working from home, then you won’t need to find ways to block out your coworkers annoying voices. However, you would have to be careful not to let other things distract you.

If its possible with your job, working from home can make a lot of sense (and cents!) both from your standpoint and your employers. If you haven’t already, ask yourself a few questions to see if it could be an option for you.

Getting Older {Tinnitus}

The Effects of Ageing

I turned 30 last year, and I officially felt old for the first time.  Part of it is the fact that I am no longer in my 20′s.  Part of it is that I am married and have kids.  Part of it is that people call me ma’am now.  Part of it is that the very act of pushing a stroller makes me virtually invisible to anyone younger than 40.  Part of it is that my body doesn’t work the way it used to- it jealously guards an extra 5-10 pounds that it would have easily parted with just a few years ago.  I also have to stop what I’m doing when I sneeze so I don’t “have an accident.”  (I actually attribute that to having babies.)  My knees hurt now, and my daughter asks me when I’m going to get new ones.  Last but not least, I have a ringing in my ears that is neither pleasant nor comfortable.

Tinnitus

Fortunately, I know that I am not alone…everyone is ageing with me, and thankfully I have the internet to google all my aches and pains.  I recently discovered that what we usually call “ringing” in our ears is actually tinnitus. Approximately 12 million Americans suffer from tinnitus to various degrees, the worst case being a very distracting, painful interruption to productivity and relaxation/sleep.

Clinically-proven nature sounds reduce the ringing in your ears so that you are not aware of it.

Treating Tinnitus

There are several treatments for tinnitus, including sound therapy.  Since I am already a big fan of white noise, I was immediately drawn to this option.  It is an easy, affordable treatment that provides coverage against the ringing sound so that you can work and sleep in peace.  In fact, since I already use a sound machine at night, my sleep  has not suffered from tinnitus!

If you are struggling with tinnitus, don’t just chalk it up to a minor annoyance that will go away…chances are, it will just get worse and more annoying.  Using a sound machine is a quick do-it-yourself treatment, but you are welcome to seek out medical advice as well.  Your ears are worth it!

Weird Ways to Use White Noise {unloading groceries}

Last week, I shared our top two must-haves for traveling with friends and/or {extra} kids.  I also teased you with how we used white noise to unload groceries…random, I know, but it’s kind of a funny situation.

8 people, 4 bedrooms; 4 of the “people” are 3 and under.

So, it was the first day of our trip, and we quickly realized that 2 in a room wasn’t ideal, especially for the little boys (ages 2 and 1).  My son (2) loves sleeping in his KidCo PeaPod, which can go anywhere.  So, I decided he could go in the kitchen.  We would just need to make sure we got everything out of the kitchen before he went down.  What we didn’t count on was getting things in the kitchen after he went down.  It was kind of a comedy of errors…

  • Opening the fridge and unloading groceries is a loud (and bright) task!

    My son goes to sleep at 7pm, so we scrambled to get the dishes done and everything out of the kitchen we needed.  We also are in Scotland, where it’s only really dark from 11pm to 3am, so we covered the windows with dark towels and turned on nature sounds from our portable sound machine to ensure a sleep-conducive environment.

  • We also needed to go to the grocery store for essentials, such as milk, yogurt, meat, cheese etc. for the week.
  • We couldn ‘t go right after dinner because my friend has to nurse her son (1) before bed time.  So, we decided we’d go after dinner, but quickly before the grocery store closed at 8.  (not kidding)
  • This all sounded like a great plan until we realized that my son would be asleep in the very room that housed the refrigerator, and everything we were getting needed to be in it!

The plan of attack

Oh my word…so, I took one for the team and decided to be braver than I felt.  Before Luke was down for the night, I figured out when the kitchen door creaked and how to open it soundlessly.  I also checked the fridge to see if we could turn off the interior light.  We couldn’t.  Bummer.  Our last offensive move was to take the groceries out of the {loud} plastic sacks and put them in 1 large reusable, canvas bag.  So, we sneaked in the kitchen, silently opened the fridge door, and started unloading what felt like a million groceries.  All was going well except that the silly bagged lettuce was getting  crinkled every time we reached in to grab something!  We labored on, and I tell you what, I have never been more tankful for white noise!  That sweet boy stayed asleep and was oblivious to the whole thing!

Traveling with friends & kids {top 2 things you need!}

Fort William {the west coast of Scotland}

This weekend we spent a couple nights on the west coast (of Scotland) with our dear friends and their 2 kids.  We had traveled to the West Coast before, but to Plockton and closer to the Isle of Skye.  This time we headed in a slightly different direction and enjoyed Fort William.  It was about a 3 1/2 hour drive from Aberdeen, which is situated on the northeast coast of Scotland.  Our friends rented a beautiful 4-bedroom lodge for a week, and we spent the first 2 nights with them.  It was an affordable, quick get-away for us, and also helped them pay for the trip as a whole since we split the shared nights.

Sleeping arrangements

However, the tricky part was that even though it was a gorgeous 4-bedroom “cottage” that literally overlooked Ben Nevis (the tallest mountain in the UK), we had 8 people to sleep in 4 rooms (we both have 2 kids)!  You might do the math and surmise that 2 per bedroom was the way to go.  Well, if our kids were a little older or more accustomed to sharing a room, the that would have been an excellent plan.  As it was, all 4 kids are 3 1/2 or under, and while they usually sleep through the night, they all go to bed at different times and might have random wake-ups at different times.

Top 2 Must-Haves for Traveling with Friends and Kids

So, looking back over the trip, there 2 things that made traveling with kids more bearable: portable DVD players and white noise machines.  I kid you not, if we could only take a few things with us, those will always my top two choices (plus diapers)- yes, higher than pajamas and tooth brushes.

  • A portable travel sound machine is ideal for trips because it is compact and has a variety of travel features.

    The portable DVD player allows us to take pleasant car trips.  We never use it in town or on a drive less than an hour because we want our kids to entertain themselves and not be too spoiled. However, for longer car (and plane) trips, DVD players are life-savers.  They also keep the child’s eyes on the screen and not out the window, thus avoiding possible car sickness.

  • White noise machines allowed us to maximize the rooms we had.  We were able to put the 2 older girls in bunk beds together, my son in the kitchen in a tent, and the youngest in a small room directly off the living room.  So, even though there were tons of potentially sleep-interrupting sounds (such as adults talking, movies playing, or the older kids not in bed yet), the white noise machines provided a gentle hum in each room so that everyone could sleep well.

So, if you’re traveling with friends and/or {extra} kids, I would highly recommend investing in both!  Plus, check back next week and see how we used white noise to unload groceries!!