Learning Flexibility as We Travel
I’ve mentioned before that we travel a lot. I grew up in a family that hardly ever left the great state of Texas. We did short road trips and stayed in the same places more or less. None of this caused much stress or required a whole lot of planning. Once I got married, however, I moved out of state and then out of the country! Being out of state meant we traveled every holiday to be with family with at least one small child, sometimes two. When we moved out of the country, we still traveled for Thanksgiving and Christmas, but these times it was all one trip, meaning 6-8 weeks at a time! Plus, once back in the UK, we had easy access to Europe, so we hit the continent as much as possible, too. All of this was with our two small children, who ranged from 4 months to 5 years over a 3-year period.
Unlike my own experience as a child, my children have had to learn to roll with the punches and to sleep in random places at random times. They have had to run in airports and change clothes on the fly. They have had to endure seemingly endless flights and connections all for the sake of seeing family. For us, as parents, we have had to learn great flexibility we were not born with and a level of planning and preparedness that can only be attributed to experience. That said, here are my main tips for traveling with small children, especially for long trips that involve long {and possibly multiple} flights and time zone changes.
- As always, talk about the trip with your children before it happens. It might be weeks or just days, but mentally prepare them for what’s coming. If there’s a time change or you expect your child to sleep on the plane for a nap or for night time, let them know so they expect it and aren’t surprised. It is important to know that children never sleep as well on planes as they do in beds, so make sure your own expectations are in check.
- If you can’t get the roomy bulkhead seats, have a back-up plan. I really liked our seats- they were towards the back which kept us close to the bathroom, as well as the engine noise which served as a nice white noise for my sleeping children. When I fly with my husband, too, we usually get our own row in that we have 4 seats. This time I did not have him, so having a 3-seat row was ideal. If you find yourself with less than 4 in your group, ask if there are 2-seat or 3-seat rows that will work. This enables you to get out on either side without disturbing another passengers. For me, it meant that when one child was sleeping, I didn’t have to wake him/her to get the other to the bathroom.
- As for a time change, count on 1 day for every hour of change. We had a 6 hour change- therefore, it took about 6 days for everyone to be completely back on track and feeling well. You just have to deal with different bed times and nap times and try to make forward progress every day. As always, we love our portable sound machines and the noise coverage they provide for any sleeping situation.
- The most important thing is to be reasonable in your expectations- travel and vacation is never as smooth as being at home, so try to enjoy the ups and downs, remembering that they are happening so you can be on this trip in the first place.
As usual, planning ahead makes for smoother travel, especially with children. Portable sound machines and the noise coverage they provide for any sleeping situation are great resources. Above all, be reasonable in your expectations.







