Family visits
We moved to Scotland almost 2 years ago. My husband was incredibly excited about starting his PhD program in the UK with a leading theologian, and I….well, I was surviving. We left a house and community I loved and moved even farther away from our families. I was happy to support my husband but devastated for myself. In all honesty, this move has been amazing for our own family and sense of identity. We depend on each other more than on our parents, and since we’re in our 30′s, that’s a good {healthy} thing. However, we both really do miss having family nearby- whether it’s helping with the kids or sharing a meal, we feel rather alone in that area. Fortunately, our families have made us a priority and both have chosen to visit us each year. Their visits are the highlight of our time here sometimes because it just feels so natural. Stuff that might normally be annoying just isn’t because we cherish our limited time together.
Having family visit for 3 weeks has been stretching, too. I am not exactly flexible sleep-wise for the kids, and I have always been terrified of rooming them together. We have usually managed to avoid that nightmare by sleeping Luke in his happy tent in odd spots, for example, but this time we decided to put the 2 kids together. I dealt with my anxiety about the upcoming ordeal by not thinking about it. {Yes, that’s called denial.} But the first night did come and we survived. Here’s what we did {keep in mind that they are 2 and almost 4}
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Hey- at least I didn't pop noise canceling headphones on them...
Moved the 2 year old’s crib to a spot the 4 year old wouldn’t have to walk past if she got up to go to the bathroom, etc.
- Slept 2 year old in the crib in the new spot for nap, so it was not a surprise for bed.
- Also had the air mattress positioned so both kids could see where everything would be.
- Made sure they were really sleepy, but not overtired.
- Talked about them “getting” {not having} to share a room and how fun that would be! {Do you hear my happy tone?}
- Got them ready for bed together.
- Read their bedtimes stories and did their prayers together.
- Plugged in2 white noise generators- 1 by each of them since it is a decently-sized room. {Two may have been over-kill, but I don’t care.}
- Practiced with 4 year old on how to get up and let herself out quietly.
- Said good-night to both and shut the door.
Well, that’ what we did. Here’s what I wish we would have done better.
- Told the 4 yar old to ignore the 2 year old and sleep through his fussing. {can you really do that, though?}
- Not let the 2 year old bounce on the air mattress, adding to his growing belief that the air mattress is obviously where all the cool kids sleep.
- Not used a night light.
Truth be told, they did great, though! Each night it got easier and the younger one asked for the air mattress less. The lack of extra light also helped keep them both asleep through the night. Practising with the older one was definitely a good idea, and we praised her for being such a good {and quiet!} big sister! Obviosuly, you know my love for white noise, so the generators were clutch in covering toddler sleeping sounds, as well as 2 extra adults going up an down the stairs, etc.
Now I am just wondering if they’ll want to go back to separate rooms?
